Public speaking feels something you might never get over but it is mindset over everything. Getting over the fear of public speaking is hard for everyone. A lot of people having anxiety about public speaking and are really good at hiding it. Others not so much. Public speaking is hard but we all have to do it eventually—whether it be for work, school, social media etc.
I got over the fear of public speaking this week when I had to speak in front of 40 people. Don’t get me wrong…I spent days ruminating on having to do it. Usually when I get nervous about public speaking I get cold hands, a little sweaty, the pitch in my voice changes and a bunch of other things. I think reading some self help books really have helped me. I am planning on doing a post with my current & future reads and I will link them to this post once I have it together. But anyways let’s get on to getting over the fear of public speaking.
1. Be Organized.
Being organized is so important. Get everything you need organized ahead of time so you know exactly what you’re going to talk about so you don’t end up with too much stage fright forgetting what to say.
2. Practice Speaking Out Loud What You’re Saying Ahead of Time.
Once you have everything organized start practicing what you are going to say. Practicing can make the words flow together so you don’t sound robotic or choppy. Practice makes perfect! (Well, no one is perfect but you get the point.)
3. Realize No One Actually Cares.
Worried about what you look like? How you stuttered or messed up a word? I promise you everyone does it so it’s not like anyone cares unless you’re being critiqued. Really, NO ONE ACTUALLY CARES. You may feel like they do but what you perceive can be different than what is actually happening. The reason no one actually cares is because everyone is too invested in themselves and worried about things happening to them, or frankly distracted.
When I am on these huge Zoom calls for work, I take a look at everyone and people get distracted ALL of the time. Whether it be another project they have need to work on before the deadline is up, or they’re texting or eating or whatever else there is to do. The average attention span of human is only a few seconds–unless you have super powers. Seriously, no one probably cares so stop worrying.
4. When You Stop Caring, You look Confident.
When you stop caring, you look confident. Literally. Have the mindset that no one cares and pretend like you’re talking to yourself. Learn not to give a damn about what others think because like we just talked about, they most likely don’t care.
5. Fake It Until You Make It.
Fake it until you make it, literally. When it was finally my time to shine this week, I used steps 3-5 and I did so much better presenting than I ever have in this almost whole year of being in this job. Fake being confident until you make it true. If you trick your mind into believing it, you actually will end up believing it eventually.
All of these steps are my conclusion of solving the problem of the fear of public speaking. I really hope you were able to take something away from reading this. I am a very anxious person and I really never thought these steps would work for me, but they totally did.
Are you a good public speaker? Do you have any other tips that I didn’t cover? I’d love to know!